Is the
Law of Attraction Broken? How Do I Find My Soulmate When I Can’t Even
Get a Date!
Author:Tanya
Haden Tebb
Men and women are human
magnets. Just as a
steel magnet drawn through a pile of rubbish will pull out only the
things, which have an affinity for it, so we are constantly drawing to
us, establishing relations with, the things and the people that respond
to our thoughts and ideals Orison Swett Marden
Ladies, I have a question for you: Do you wonder why you can’t find
your dream man? Do you long for a soulmate, your one true love, that
man who will whisk you away to your happily ever after? If you do, ask
yourself this: Why haven’t you found him yet? And, while you’re
flashing back on all the reasons why, consider this…
The Universal Law
of Attraction states that people are like magnets. A magnet
attracts iron ore because that’s what it’s made up of. People attract
other people who are “made up” of the same stuff, like hopes, desires,
fears, feelings, and so on. For example, in a very basic way, when you
smile at somebody, do people smile back at you? Yes, most often they
do. This is the law of attraction working. When you smile people are
drawn to your positive energy, it makes them feel good, and as a result
they smile back which makes you feel good; like attracting like.
So, do you think this law of attraction is true in your own life? Do
you believe you can you really attract the positive and negative just
like a magnet? The things you want—like money, power, and confidence?
Even the things you don’t want—debt, conflict, or poor self image? How
about love…do you think you can use this law to attract your one true
love just as surely as to attract not-so-good relationships? Let’s
explore this a little further by thinking about how you talk to your
girlfriends about men, dating, and love.
When you’re chatting with the girls, do you hear yourself saying things
like “I’m never going to find my Mr. Right” or “There must be something
wrong with me,” or “I hate dating,” or “My one true love must not
exist,” or “I don’t believe in soulmates.”? If you do, do you think
such negative thoughts and expressions as these have any connection
with why you haven’t found your true love yet? Or, do you think they’re
totally unconnected and that at any moment your dream man is going to
materialize out of thin air, whisk you off your feet, and you’ll live
happily ever after? If you think the latter, it’s time for a reality
check!
Ask yourself this: Would *you* be attracted to a man who had such a
woe-is-me attitude, low self esteem, negative outlook on life, and no
dreams for his relationship future? Um, I didn’t think so. So why
should a man be attracted to you if this is the “man magnet” you’re
casting out into the world?
Skill skeptical? Still think a man is magically going to appear? Still
want to buck the law of attraction? Don’t worry; you’re absolutely
right: A man *will* appear. He’ll likely be Mr. Wrong, ready to exploit
your self-doubt, and if he doesn’t make your life miserable right away,
he’ll at least keep you from finding somebody better…for a long time to
come! And, if by that time your attitude still hasn’t changed, the next
man you’ll attract isn’t going to be Mr. Wrong, he’s going to be Mr.
Really Wrong!
You see, try to resist it as you will, when you affirm these negative
messages and desires, you are calling on the law of attraction to work
for you. And, dutifully, obediently, and without question, it will. The
only problem is that you’re asking the universe to send you the
*opposite* of what you truly want!
Now, you’re in a real pickle because you’ve got what you asked for, but
it’s not what you want. When you state “I don’t want this or that” and
“I don’t need such and such,” it’s exactly what you attract. Then you
find yourself wondering why you “just can’t get a break,” “why
everybody else is falling in love but me,” and you’re left to wallow in
the idea that you’re “going to grow old alone.” If this is how you
feel, you’re not alone. Many women (and, yes, men, too) don’t know how
to affirm what they *do* want. They only know how to define what they
do *not* want. In affirming the negative, this is the very thing they
attract.
But, before you get mad at the law of attraction, you must realize “it”
doesn’t care one way or the other if you’re happy or sad, with Mr.
Right or Mr. Wrong. The law works without judgment, without bias, and
without any sentiment of “I sure hope she finds her dream man this
time!” If you want to begin attracting your true love, then things are
going to need to change and *you* are going to need to be the one who
changes them.
Change your focus to the positive, to the self affirming, and to your
ideal, and your man magnetism is going to start attracting your Mr.
Right (and, likely, many of them!) immediately.
You might be asking yourself, “Gee, this all sounds good, but how the
heck do I actually stop focusing on a lifetime of bad dates, dead-end
relationships, and deadbeat guys?” or “Hey, I don’t even know where to
begin imagining who my true love or ideal man really is. How do I get
started?” I’m glad you asked!
Discover how
to attract men by making the universal law of attraction work
in your favor by answering these seven super simple questions:
1. Define the type of relationship you want
“I want to meet the man of my dreams,” isn’t going to cut it. Be
specific (e.g., “I want to find a husband who is passionate about his
career and loves kids. He enjoys cycling and picnics in the park.” or
“I desire to have a wild love affair with a French man who has curly
black hair and brown eyes.” or “I would love to go on a romantic date
with a man who buys me flowers and makes me laugh.”).
2. How does this man treat you?
(e.g., He takes me out to dinner, buys me flowers, holds my hand, finds
my jokes funny, tells me I am beautiful, pampers me and treats me like
a princess, rubs my feet after a long day…)
3. How does it feel when you are with him?
(e.g., I tremble when he brushes past me, my heart beats faster when I
hear his name, we talk and talk for hours as if we have known each
other for years, I feel safe when his strong arms are around me, it is
like music to my ears when I hear his laughter…)
4. What does he look like?
(e.g., He has a warm smile, big muscles, blonde hair and green eyes,
black hair and brown eyes, curly brown hair, tall/short, dark/fair
skinned, freckles…))
5. What does he do for fun?
(e.g., Work out at the gym, listen to/play music, cycle, play
golf/football/tennis, eat out, go to bars/clubs, hiking, mountain
climbing, reading, swimming, travel…)
6. Where will you meet this man?
(e.g., I meet him at an airport, sports bar, night club, on the
internet, through friends, by chance, at a wedding, in the
grocery/video store, library, at the beach, gym, tennis club…)
7. How will you know you’ve found him?
(e.g., He proposes to me on a starry night. We are lying together on a
sandy beach listening to the waves crashing against the shore. I wake
up in the morning to find him making me breakfast in the kitchen. Our
eyes meet across a crowded room and he comes over and asks me to dance…)
When you have answered all of these questions, you are ready to let the
law of attraction start working for you. You know exactly what you are
looking for, where to find it, and how to know when you have found it.
So now all you have to do is take a few minutes to think over your
responses, and then close your eyes and imagine the man
of your dreams. See him, hear him, touch him, feel him…even
taste him!
Take time to affirm these positive images daily. Breathe in deeply
letting the air fill every cell in your body with the image of what you
desire. With every exhalation feel the peace and joy that comes with
knowing your desire is already fulfilled…and it really is…the universal
law of attraction *will* start drawing your dream man (or men!) to you
almost immediately.
Don’t believe me? Give it a try and see the results for yourself. Isn’t
it time for you to recognize your magnetic potential within
and—snap—start attracting your perfect man now?
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