Vedic Relationship Astrology
In Vedic Astrology, relationship compatibility is
based upon the Moon and Nakshatras. The Moon is the mind and feelings
of the individual. It is the Jiva, the idea of separate existence and
the Ahamkara, the ego. In essence, the Moon is our very identity as
opposed to the Western Astrological view that the Sun represents the
ego. In Vedic Astrology, the Sun is the Soul, because the Sun is
constant. It never stops shining. The Moon, however, takes the light of
the Sun, as the mind takes the light of the soul, and waxes and wanes.
In other words, the Moon CHANGES. The Sun does not. Therefore, the most
appropriate planet to represent the individual is the Moon.
The Vedic compatibility techniques are very
simple, yet very profound. Since they are based upon the Nakshatras,
these techniques are exceptionally ancient and come directly from the
Rishis. Many will say that these techniques are outdated and do not
work in modern society because relationships between men and women have
changed enormously. While the cultural norms of relationships have
changed, the dynamic of two people interacting with each other have
not, and these techniques apply just as well today as they did
thousands of years ago. What is a relationship? It is two people
relating to each other and the needs and emotions of this exchange
never change. As you will see as you read further, these techniques are
so insightful into the human psyche, their profoundness has not
diminished in the least.
A relationship consists of two people relating and
for that to happen there must always be masculine energy and feminine
energy, whether it is a man and a woman, two women, two men, a teacher
and student or a parent and child. There is ALWAYS a male/female
dynamic happening. When male/female dynamic is stated, please throw out
all concepts of what male/female is. Masculine energy is dynamic,
initiating, steadfast energy and feminine energy is receptive,
accommodating, changeable energy. Masculine energy wants to be loved
for what it does and when it does good, it feels good. Feminine energy
wants to be loved for what it is, and when it feels good, it does good.
An example would be when one person talks, another must listen,
otherwise you have two people talking at the same time, in which case
they are not relating, or you have neither one talking, in which case
there is no relationship. This is not to say that in a heterosexual
couple, the woman is always receptive and the man is always dynamic. I
am just explaining what masculine and feminine energy are and how they
are always at play in creation and in relationships.
The Sun and the Moon
In every horoscope, the Sun represents the
masculine principle and the Moon, the feminine principle. Parasara
clearly defines what the Sun is in the following sutra,
The Sun has honey colored
eyes, square body; he is of clean habits, is bilious, intelligent,
manly and has limited hair on his head.
BPHS, Chapter 3, verse 23
The Sun has a square body. When you set a square
down it stays put. If you leave it, you can walk away and know when you
come back it will still be there. This makes the Sun steadfast and
goal-oriented. When the Sun (or masculine energy) makes a plan to do
something, they stick with it, no matter if they don’t feel like doing
it. This is a quality of healthy masculine energy. The Sun is bilious
meaning it has qualities of Pitta, the fire dosha. The nature of Pitta
is competitive and masculine energy has the quality of always wanting
to compete and be the best. The Sun is intelligent, meaning masculine
energy uses logic to know something. The Sun has limited hair. Hair is
the most out of control thing on our bodies. Our hair keeps a record of
our past. The Sun is not concerned with the past; that is why he has no
hair on his head. Nor is the Sun is concerned with what is beyond his
control.
Parasara describes the Moon, the feminine
principle, in the following sutra,
“Abounding in Vata and
Kapha and filled with knowing is the Moon of round body, O’ Twice Born,
auspiciously eyed, of sweet speech, fluctuating and love sick”
The Moon is lovesick, its feminine energy must be
receptive to something, otherwise, it feels empty. This makes feminine
energy more concerned with relationships. I realize this is not very
PC, but I must tell the truth after doing hundreds of horoscopes.
Almost inevitably, women want to know about relationships first. The
men also want to know about relationships, but only after career and
wealth, unless they want a consultation specifically about
relationships. The Moon represents the principle of change. The Moon is
of round body and when you put something down that is round, it rolls
away. Like the Moon changes each night waxing and waning, so does the
feminine energy change with feelings. The Moon is "filled with
knowing", therefore the Moon does not need logic to know something, the
Moon just knows, like women's intuition. An example: A man and a woman
want to buy a car. The man gets out the magazines, measures for
clearance, does the research on MPG and all the rest. The woman looks
at a selection of cars and says, "I want that one". This is not to say
that the woman never uses her logic. It just means that most of the
time, her decisions and actions will be based upon her feelings which
will usually be correct. If the Moon is afflicted, that shows affairs
more than anything in the horoscope.
A woman is always 51% or more of feminine energy
and a man is always 51% or more of masculine energy. The principle is
that the Sun, as the dynamic masculine force, rules men and the Moon as
the receptive female force rules women. Of course, all men have a
feminine side and all women have a masculine side, and they are often
used, but these are not the overriding principles in the identity and
especially with regard to relationships.
Assessing an Individual’s Capacity
for Relationships
Before looking at the compatibility, the
individual charts must be assessed to determine if the person will even
enjoy being in a relationship and if they have the tools with which to
make their partners happy and fulfilled. If the individual chart is
showing selfishness and fear, then it will be that much more difficult
for the person and their partners to be happy within a relationship, so
it is very important to assess certain factors within the individual
horoscope first.
The Sun and Man’s Capability
We will start with the Male gender. When it comes
to men, happiness is all about capability and confidence. Masculine
energy is dynamic and initiating, therefore it feels best when it can
be this way unobstructed. Capability and confidence are indicated by
the Sun. It is necessary to determine if the man has more masculine or
feminine influence to his Sun. This is not to say that if feminine
signs prevail in his horoscope, he will be unhappy in a relationship.
It simply means that he will be a little more laid back, a little more
receptive and not as dynamic in his actions. In regards to the
Masculine and Feminine signs influencing a man or a woman, you look for
these factors:
- Placement of the Sun in Masculine or Feminine
Sign
- Placement of the Ascendant in Masculine or
Feminine Sign
- Placement of the Moon in Masculine or Feminine
Sign
- Day or Night Birth, Day being masculine and
Night being feminine
You look for these 4 factors in the Rasi Chart and
also the Trimsamsa chart or D-30, the 30th divisional chart. This varga
has a tremendous amount to say about the person’s character and health.
It distinguishes people born in the same place at the same time within
minutes of each other. You also look for these 4 factors in the Navamsa
as this varga rules the marriage and relationship life. These factors
in the Navamsa will reveal the masculine and feminine energy flow
within the relationship but not as part of their natural character. In
regards to the 2 vargas assessed, you do not take into account the day
or night birth.
Mahabaghya Yoga or Great Fortune Yoga is a yoga
dependent upon the aforementioned factors. This is present in a man’s
chart if the Sun, Moon and Ascendant are all within masculine signs and
he was born during the day. How do you tell if someone was born in the
day or night? If they were born during the day, the Sun is above the
horizon or between the 7th and 1st house, namely in the 8th through
12th houses. The Sun is below the horizon, therefore the person is born
during night, if the Sun is in houses 2 – 6. If the Sun is in the 1st
house but has a higher degree than the Ascendant, then the person is
born at night. If the Sun’s degree is less than the Ascendant’s, then
the person is born during the day, or the Sun has just risen. If the
Sun is in the 7th house and it has higher degrees than the Descendant,
then the person is born during the day. Consequently, if the Sun is in
the 7th house and the degree is less than the Ascendant, the person is
born at night and the Sun has just set. Mahabagya Yoga for a male will
make him very dynamic and a real go-getter. He will have supreme
confidence to set goals and meet them and will find much happiness in
his life.
After one has assessed the prevalence of masculine
or feminine energies, then the Sun, the 10th house from the Ascendant
and the 10th house from the Sun must be assessed. The 10th house has to
do with one’s power and how one takes care of their responsibilities.
It is called the House of Karma and shows the action we must take in
the world. Malefics conjoined or aspecting the Sun will harm the
confidence and the feeling of capability. Benefics joined or aspecting
the Sun will enhance the confidence and the feeling of capability. In
addition, malefics or benefics in the 10th house from the Ascendant and
the 10th house from the Sun will harm or enhance the confidence and
capability.
Gentle Planets or Saumya Grahas influencing the
Sun, the 10th house from the Sun, or the 10th house from the Ascendant
will make the man get things done in a gentle or easy way. If there are
cruel planets or Krura Grahas influencing the Sun, the 10th house from
the Ascendant or the 10th house from the Sun, then the man will be more
pushy and aggressive in what he wants and take anger and frustration
out on others. Malefics or cruel planets always spread around their
negativity while gentle planets or benefics keep their negativity to
themselves and spread around their good will.
The influence of cruel planets to the Sun, 10th
house from the Ascendant and/or 10th house from Sun will also hurt the
confidence and feeling of capability. Saturn influencing the Sun or
10th house will seriously hurt the confidence and inhibit the actions
the man takes to get what he wants. Saturn and the Sun are enemies and
Saturn’s influence to the Sun, the masculine energy or to the 10th
house of power and authority, will keep the man out of touch with his
dynamic, initiatory energy. If, in addition, there is a heavy influence
of feminine signs in the chart, this will be a man who will have ideas
of what he wants his life to be like, but never really act on them. In
his romantic life, this type of man usually just falls into a
relationship because it is convenient and ends up with a woman who
calls the shots. He is still a man, so he does not like being dictated
to, but because his masculine energy is so suppressed he does not act
to get out of the situation and will stay in it until something better
comes along.
For a man, Rahu influencing the Sun or the 10th
house is not as detrimental as Saturn. Rahu externalizes energy, so
Rahu with the Sun will externalize the energy of the Sun, making him
appear very dynamic and charismatic. Internally, however, he is not so
sure about his masculine identity. He is capable, but can be a little
overbearing and even arrogant because he is compensating.
Ketu with the Sun or influencing the 10th house
will internalize the masculine energy and will make him self-doubting
and self-effacing on the surface. Inwardly, he will be very confident
in his masculine identity and will be logical and opinionated.
Similarly, Mars influencing the Sun will make him opinionated, but also
pushy, aggressive, and if Mars is afflicted, angry. Mars influencing
the Sun and/or the 10th house with a predominant amount of feminine
signs will give the man a healthy dose of frustration which he will
take out on others. He will have some hindrances in his capacity to
make things happen and to feel good about what he can accomplish.
The bottom line is that cruel planets influencing
the Sun, the 10th house from the Ascendant or the 10th house from the
Sun are more important when weighing the negative affects to a man’s
masculine energy than the influence of feminine signs.
Women and Receptive Yogas
The Receptivity Yogas mentioned in the classical
texts are named “Chastity” yogas. However, since these yogas have
nothing to do with whether a woman has sex or not and more to do with
how receptive a woman is, I have renamed these yogas “Receptivity
Yogas”. In the times these texts were written, an enormous amount of
attention was paid to the details of a woman’s sexual life, so these
yogas guaranteed or not if a woman was chaste. Nowadays, the norms
regarding a woman’s sexuality are not what they were and these yogas
have really nothing to do with a woman’s sexuality anyway. They have to
do with what a woman is receptive to and whether one trusts life and
especially if there are a lot of fear and control issues. The first
yoga mentioned will measure how much masculine/feminine energy a female
has. If she has more masculine energy, she will be more dynamic and
initiatory in her actions. This, of course, does not mean she won’t be
happy in a relationship, but rather she likes to initiate and be
actively engaged in activity most of the time as opposed to just being.
She is decisive and goal – oriented. But because she is a woman and as
stated before, women want to be loved for who they are and not what
they do, it will be more difficult for her to be receptive to what life
brings and therefore her man. Since she has a lot of masculine energy,
she will tend to compete with her man. And since men are competitive by
nature, the man will automatically compete with her instead of cherish
her which is what she really craves. Please keep in mind that this does
not mean a woman with a lot of masculine energy will have disastrous
relationships. It just means she does very well on her own and has
trouble receiving.
In a woman’s chart, the Moon is more important
than the Sun for determining happiness. If a woman has all four
masculine factors (the Sun, Moon, Ascendant in masculine signs and she
was born during the day), then it will be very difficult to be
receptive to a man and completely happy and fulfilled within a
relationship. This is called a reverse Mahabhagya Yoga. If the woman
has all four factors in feminine signs and was born during the night or
a Mahabhagya Yoga, then she will be enormously in touch with her
feelings and her feelings will never lead her astray. She will be
receptive to the good things that life brings her and reject that which
will make her unhappy.
Malefics influencing the Moon, the 4th house from
the Ascendant and the 4th house from the Moon will hurt the woman’s
ability to trust and make her receptive to fear. The 4th house rules
where things collect like lakes and ponds, so it rules what a person is
receptive to. The most damaging malefics to have in the 4th house from
the Ascendant, the 4th house from the Moon or influencing the Moon are
Saturn and Rahu. Saturn rules fear of the known and Rahu rules fear of
the unknown. When Saturn influences the factors just mentioned, the
woman does not trust life. And if she does not trust life, how will she
trust her man? Saturn will make the woman want to control everything to
provide for her security. She sees all the potential disasters that
could happen and takes steps to make sure these things do not happen.
In other words, she is full of worry, which is another form of fear,
and does not trust that anyone can get the job done, except for her,
and even then she is not sure she can ward off disaster by herself.
When Rahu influences the factors of the Moon and
4th house, then she is receptive to fear of the unknown, and will also
make her want to control but also a little unstable. Rahu in the 4th
house from the Ascendant or the 4th house from the Moon, in addition to
making her a little emotionally volatile, will give wild mood swings.
Rahu influencing the Moon by being conjoined to it will give an
extremely alluring feminine quality that is very attractive to men.
Internally, however, the woman will not feel comfortable with her own
femininity and it will feel quite foreign to her. The emotions will
also be privy to wild swings of mood.
The whole idea here is that when Rahu and/or
Saturn influence the Moon, the 4th house from the Ascendant or the 4th
house from the Moon, then she has a lot of difficulty trusting life and
therefore her partner. She is privy to fear and worry and will have
control issues.
Mars influencing the Moon, 4th house from the
Ascendant or 4th from Moon will give the woman very strong opinions.
Mars is our opinions and with the Moon will show how forcefully we
cling to them. Mars is our idea of how things should and should not be.
The Sun in the 4th house or 4th from Moon will make her initiate when
she should be receptive and she will have trouble really listening to
others. Ketu is the least malefic and will just internalize the
feminine energy making her appear aloof and cold when inside, she is
anything but. She will be very sensitive and emotional but will not
appear this way to others.
After all is said and done, most people want to be
in a relationship. It is a very real human need. But sometimes, when
certain types of people do get into relationships, and inevitably every
time they get into one, they lament “I just don’t feel like myself” or
“I hate myself when I’m in a relationship” or they are just very
unhappy and emotionally unstable. Usually it is due to one of the
factors mentioned above when they just cannot seem to be happy within a
relationship no matter with whom it is.
The Importance of Venus in
Relationships
Another factor worth mentioning that can cause a
lot of frustration within a relationship for men and women is a
combust, impaired or debilitated Venus. And one must look for this in
the Rasi, Navamsa and the Trimsamsa. Look for combustion only in the
Rasi as it is an astronomical phenomenon.
Venus rules worth and value. The moolatrikona sign
of Venus is Libra, the Scales. A less than ideal Venus will give a
person issues with his/her self-worth and own value. When Venus is beat
up in a horoscope, the person has a skewed idea of the value of things
and of their own worth. A relationship is all about sharing and
relating. Venus being inauspicious will harm the sense of sharing a
person has. If they think they are worth being abused, then they will
get abuse.
When Venus is combust, it is angry and frustrated
and the self or soul is so identified with the Venusian energy that to
be rejected is an outright rejection of the person’s very existence.
They do not have any confidence in wielding romantic and affectionate
feelings because a combust planet has very low Cheshta Bala. Cheshta
means “confidence”. They feel uncomfortable and are outright turned off
by odious displays of affection. They also do not feel confident in
expressing affection. Often times, they will reject a partner or be the
instigator of ending a relationship due to the fact they cannot handle
rejection in any way, shape or form. Venus in debilitation puts the
planet asleep so these people with Venus in Virgo also have a very hard
time expressing romantic feelings but for different reasons. It is not
because of their fear of rejection but because they are just not in
touch with that part of themselves, nor are they in touch with their
feelings of worth and value as a partner within a relationship.
It must be mentioned here that it is very
important to look at Venus in the Navamsa and Trimsamsa as well and
weigh all of the factors. If Venus is in Virgo in the Rasi chart but
exalted in the Navamsa and in its own sign in the Trimsamsa, then the
fact that it is in good dignity in the relationship chart will go a
long way to help Venus. Overall the person will do quite well in
sharing with a partner and being able to express their affection.
When Venus is conjoined a malefic then it is
called “impaired” and cannot function to its full capacity. Saturn in
the worst. Saturn joined with Venus will starve Venus. Saturn is the
air element and it tends to dry things out. The person will feel
starved or thirsty for love. Saturn will delay love gratification and
the person will have negative experiences in love until he or she
overcomes some negative karmas.
Rahu with Venus causes the person to have intense,
hypnotic attractions to people until they enter into a relationship
with the person. The attraction usually turns out to be an attraction
to a specific quality of the partner and once that quality is consumed,
then the native with Rahu conjoined Venus will move on and leave the
relationship. Rahu is unconscious desire. Rahu is the reason we
incarnate, to have life experiences in the realm that Rahu touches
through Sign and House placement and also through those experiences
represented by planets Rahu conjoins. Venus in conscious desire and
relationships, so when the both Venus and Rahu get together, the person
is at the mercy of their desires. This is an aspect that is also
indicative of affairs. When a Venus/Rahu person enters into a
relationship where the attraction is not all consuming and hypnotizing,
then you know that that relationship has a good chance of being long
term and stable.
Mars with Venus usually indicates that a man has
been abused by a woman or a woman has been abused by a man. This does
not necessarily mean physical abuse, although it can mean that. The
underlying meaning is that the person has been taken advantage of by
the opposite sex.
Compatibility Part 2 –
Assessing Compatibility
Important: As an
astrologer, I always use the Tropical Zodiac for reasons which are
explained on my website. I also use Equatorial Nakshatras, not
Nakshatras with ecliptical longitude. In some cases utilizing
Equatorial Nakshatras, a person’s Nakshatra will change because all
Nakshatras are not equal in length. In this system, some Nakshatras are
longer than 13 degrees 20 minutes and some are shorter. I have found
these systems, the Tropical Zodiac and Equatorial Nakshatras, to be
much more accurate than the Sidereal Zodiac and Ecliptical Nakshatras.
If one has Vedic software, and does a compatibility knowing the
dynamics of a couple, and the result just does not make sense, I humbly
suggest that one try these novel systems and assess the different
results.
Compatible and Incompatible vs. The
Price to be Paid
Ironically, this is an article about relationship
compatibility, however, the reality is there is no such
thing as compatible or incompatible. There is only, “Are
you willing to pay the price?” The price to be paid to be with the
person you like may be too high to be worth the trouble. Or, in the
case of high compatibility, the price is low. It is all about what an
individual is willing to give for the relationship. As said before,
Venus’s moolatrikona sign is Libra, the Scales. Venus, as the karaka of
relationships, by its very nature, weighs the good and the bad or the
pros and the cons, and decides whether it is worth it or not.
Compatibility assessment is a tool to show the individual at the very
beginning whether it is worth it or not.
Vedha and Rajju, The Two Major
Blemishes
Vedha
Certain Nakshatras are “Vedha” to each other.
Vedha simply means obstruction. When present, the couple can never
really get off the ground, there is always something preventing them
from being together the way they want to be. Our destiny is mapped out
by the Moon since the Vimsottari dasa is the Moon progressing through
the Nakshatras. If our birth Nakshatras are obstructing each other,
then our destinies are obstructing each other. If these couples with
Vedha actually do make it to the altar, which almost never happens,
then there is something in the outer world preventing them from fully
being together. More often than not, it is outer circumstances that are
obstructing the couple instead of painful emotional issues,
passive/aggressiveness or unhealthy co-dependence. These things just
mentioned are the realm of Rajju. The destinies of married individuals
are almost one. If your spouse becomes wealthy, then you become
wealthy. If your spouse becomes poor, then so do you. If your spouse
becomes ill, then you must care for them. When two destinies are not
jiving, then the people cannot get together no matter how hard they
try. There are no exceptions to Vedha.
Rajju
Rajju is another serious dosha or affliction.
Rajju means “rope” and it ropes the couple to misfortune. It also ropes
the couple to each other in an unhealthy, co-dependent way. These are
the couples you see constantly breaking up and getting back together.
They are addicted to the drama of the relationship. Rajju binds the
couple in five different areas: at the feet, at the hip, at the navel,
at the neck and at the head. It must be kept in mind that couples with
the same Nakshatra will always have Rajju. They are in a different
category. Couples with the same Nakshatra will be explained later on in
this article.
The classic texts say that Rajju in the feet will
bind the couple to wandering. This means there will be many ups and
downs within the relationship and it won’t be able to stand on its
feet. The relationship will have “its feet pulled out from under it”.
The couple will never feel really secure within the relationship.
If Rajju is in the hip, it will cause poverty.
This can manifest as actual poverty for the couple, but in most cases
it is a metaphor for the fact that the couple feels like they are
giving up something to be in the relationship. Both people feel a lack
and the feeling is very pronounced.
The classic texts say that if Rajju is in the
navel, there will be loss of children. This can mean that the couple
will be childless, or the children will be a major source of stress to
the couple. It also means that the couple will have a very hard time
creating together and will find it difficult to work on projects
together.
Rajju in the neck will cause the wife to die. This
does not literally mean that the wife will die. It is a metaphor for an
energy drain. The neck symbolizes choices. You turn your neck from left
to right to see your options. Women are more prone to liking choices
than men. As mentioned before, feminine energy is receptive. Therefore
it is receptive to what comes its way and will take the best option. It
is all about options. When a man is courting a woman, he presents her
with situations and activities. If she does not like what he presents
her with, then it is his job to offer another option. When there is
Rajju at the neck, there are no other options presented and the female
is basically forced to accept only one situation or activity. This is
extremely frustrating to feminine energy and therefore the female
becomes drained in a relationship.
If Rajju is at the head, then the husband will
die. The head represents the logic and dynamic energy. Dynamic energy
is masculine energy. When the dynamic energy is frustrated, then
nothing ever happens. Feminine energy needs something to be receptive
to. If there is nothing there, which is what happens when there is
Rajju at the head, then there is no relationship. Incidentally, in my
practice, I have never seen a couple with Rajju at the head.
The following Nakshatras show which Rajju they
will have:
Feet: Asvini, Aslesha, Magha, Jyeshtha, Moola,
Revati
Hip: Bharani, Pushyami, Purva Phalguni, Anuradha,
Purva Ashada, Uttara Bhadra Pada.
Neck: Rohini, Ardra, Hasta, Svati, Sravana,
Shatabishak.
Navel: Krittika, Punarvasu, Uttara Phalguni,
Vishaka, Uttara Ashada, purva Bhadra Pada.
Head: Mrigashira, Chitra, Dhanishta.
There are exceptions to Rajju. Rajju is only
completely cancelled when there is Strii Dirgha, full Graha Maitram,
Tara Kuta and Mahendra. If these four are present, then Rajju becomes
manageable. If there are three or less present, then Rajju becomes a
major problem within the relationship. These are explained shortly.
Capacity and Receptivity Yogas will tell if a
person will be happy in a relationship. It is important to remember
that a person is exactly where they need to be at any given moment. If
they are going through a relationship that causes pain, and their
compatibility is less than ideal, then this experience is just as
important as an experience of a relationship with high compatibility.
It is important to reiterate the concept of non-judgment when it comes
to relationships.
Strii Dirgha “Long Woman”
Unlike the previous mentioned blemishes of Vedha
and Rajju, Strii Dirgha is something that is definitely desired within
a relationship. It is very important that a couple have Strii Dirgha.
Energy will take the easiest, shortest path or the path of least
resistance. Imagine a circle and around the circle are the Nakshatras.
The energy is flowing around the circle in a clockwise direction. In
order for the couple to have Strii Dirgha, the shortest distance should
be from the Man’s moon to the Woman’s moon. If the shortest distance is
from the Man’s moon to the Woman’s moon, then the energy begins with
the male and is received by the female. If the shortest distance is
from the Woman’s moon to the Man’s moon, then she becomes the initiator
in the relationship and Strii Dirgha is not present. The Man’s moon
must be at least fourteen Nakshatras away from the Woman’s moon for
Strii Dirgha to be present. There is a 50% chance that Strii Dirgha
will be present for a couple. Considering the fact that about 50% of
marriages end in divorce, we can see these statistics manifesting. To
give an example so this can be visualized, if a Man’s moon is in Pisces
and the Woman’s moon is in Gemini, then Strii Dirgha is present. The
shortest distance is starting with the Man’s moon and going to the
Woman’s moon. If the Woman’s moon is in Gemini and the Man’s Moon is in
Libra, then Strii Dirgha is not present. The shortest distance is
starting with the Woman’s moon and going to the Man’s moon.
When Strii Dirgha is not present, or when the
shortest distance is from the Woman’s moon to the Man’s moon, then the
Woman is thrust into the role of initiator and the Man is thrust into
the receptive role. In a female brain the energy travels much faster
between the left and right hemispheres. Therefore, a female is able to
instantly know how she feels about something. When remembering the
explanation of the Moon, she is adaptable and is round, meaning she
rolls with the changes. In a Man’s brain, it takes up to 20 minutes for
him to know how he feels about something. The energy travels much more
slowly between the hemispheres. Therefore, when the female approaches
her man with an idea or an activity, it is much harder for him to stop
what he is doing and see how he feels about it. While he is trying to
figure out how he feels, she is getting frustrated and impatient. The
end result is that the man feels nagged and pressured, and the woman
feels unloved and unappreciated. This is just one example of what
happens when Strii Dirgha is not present.
It is realized that in every relationship,
sometimes the woman initiates and the man is receptive. But in a
relationship without Strii Dirgha, the fundamental energy flow starts
with the woman and goes to the man, so it is a quality of the
relationship. The gist is that the woman ends up feeling unimportant
and the man feels redundant. Strii Dirgha is usually noticed in a
relationship right away and is cause for quite an energy drain. If the
couple has over 20 Kuta points, then having no Strii Dirgha is
manageable. They are on the same wavelength enough to know that the
woman is not trying to nag her man and that the man is not being
inattentive because he doesn’t love her, this is just the energy
dynamic between the two of them. High points with other mitigating
factors like Vasya and Mahendra also go a long way to help the lack of
Strii Dirgha. But if the total kuta points are not over 20, then having
no Strii Dirgha will weigh upon the relationship and the relationship
may be more trouble than it is worth. The two people will never benefit
from having a proper masculine/feminine energy flow.
Ashta Kutas
Ashta means eight and Kutas means points. There
are eight categories from which to judge the energy flow within a
relationship from a maximum total of 36 points. Anything over 20 is
considered good and marriage is recommended. Between 16 and 20 is
considered OK, and the couple can make it if they do not have any major
blemishes, have Strii Dirgha, and sincerely love each other. Below 16
is considered very low and the price to be paid for staying in the
relationship will be more than it is worth. A description of each
category follows. The more points awarded a category, the more
important it is. If the points are very low in a category that is worth
a lot of points, the couple will have an enhanced awareness of this
problem within their relationship.
Nadi Kuta
Nadi literally means vein and is the Dosha of the
Nakshatra. There are three doshas, windy, fiery and watery. The windy
Nakshatras are: Asvini, Ardra, Punurvasu, Uttara Phalguni, Hasta,
Jyestha, Moola, Shatabishak, Purva Bhadra Pada.
The fiery Nakshatras are: Bharani Mrigashira,
Pushya, Purva Phalguni, Chitra, Anuradha, Purva Ashada, Dhanishta
Uttara Bhadra Pada.
The watery Nakshatras are: Kirttika, Rohini,
Aslesha, Magha, Svati, Vishaka, Uttara Ashada, Sravana, Revati.
For the category of Nadi, there are eight possible
points to be gained. Nadi is therefore the most important out of the 8
categories because one stands to lose the most points. If the couple
has the same dosha for their Nakshatras, then they receive 0 points and
it is highly conspicuous between the two of them. This creates an
excess of the dosha. If there is an excess of water, the relationship
is riding an emotional roller coaster as water is associated with
emotions. Everything becomes an emotional issue and when dealing with
seemingly mundane, everyday things, the couple will become overly
emotional about it. This lends itself to a tremendous energy drain on
the relationship and much co-dependence. The ancient texts state that
the “woman will die” if the couple has the watery nadi. This does not
mean that the woman will literally die. It is a metaphor for the fact
that the constant emotional up and down of the relationship causes her
to feel there is a lack of serious commitment, therefore she feels
insecure.
If the couple have a windy nadi, the ancient texts
state here, as well, that the “woman will die”. Wind causes many
changes, confusion, and takes away a strong focus resulting in a
relationship that lacks a firm foundation. When the woman knows that
the relationship is lacking in stability, she begins to feel insecure
and since a woman’s confidence is enormously based upon how she feels
as opposed to what she does, this windy nadi will cause her much
emotional distress and depression.
If the couple have a fiery nadi, the ancient texts
state that the “husband will die”. An excess of fire facilitates anger,
aggression and frustration in the couple. Too much anger provides an
energy drain on men, because when men get angry, it is their feminine
side surfacing because they cannot deal with the situation at hand.
When a man gets angry, he loses his composure, capability and
confidence to handle the situation. When it comes to happiness for men,
it’s all about capability and confidence. Fiery nadi facilitates an
energy drain in men that is why the texts say “the husband will die”.
It does not mean literal death.
Bha Kuta
“Bha” is another word for sign, like Aries,
Taurus, etc. Bha Kuta is worth a total of 7 points, so very important
and if missing, will be felt by the couple. Bha Kuta states that the
Moon signs of the couple should not be in a 6/8, 2/12/ or 5/9
relationship with each other. For example, to attain 7 points of Bha
Kuta, if the woman’s moon is in Pisces, the man’s moon should not be in
Leo or Libra (6/8), Aquarius or Aries (2/12), Cancer or Scorpio (5/9).
If the Moons of the couple fall in these positions, 0 points are given.
A 6/8 relationship between the moon’s will cause
arguing and discord and many abrupt changes, all things related to the
6th and 8th houses.
A 2/12 relationship between the moon’s will cause
loss, a feeling of lack and/or poverty in the couple.
A 5/9 relationship, one would expect to be quite
nice because the 5th and 9th houses are the most beneficial houses in
the horoscope. These houses are the most beneficial houses but only in
the sense of the self. The 1/5/9 houses are houses of the self. They
are the fire triad. When there is an emphasis on those houses, the
person can be highly self-sufficient and does not like to rely on
others or provide give and take. When this relationship is present
between the moons of a couple, they tend to want to teach each other,
inspire each other and “get one up” on the other. Both of the
individuals want to be the leader and they tend to compete. If the
moons are in this relationship, the couple will notice this dynamic in
their interaction.
Gana Kuta
Gana means ‘race’ and refers to whether the
Nakshatras of the moons are the race of devas ‘gods’, manushas
‘humans’, or rakshasas ‘demons’. The following is a list of the
Nakshatras and their race:
Deva “gods”: Asvini, Mrigashira, Punurvasu,
Pushya, Hasta, Svati, Anuradha, Sravana, Revati
Manusha ‘human’: Bharani, Rohini, Ardra, Purva
Phalguni, Uttara Phalguni, Purva Ashada, Uttara Ashada, Purva Bhadra
Pada, Uttara Bhadra Pada
Rakshasa “demon”: Krittika, Aslesha, Magha,
Chitra, Vishaka, Jyeshtha, Mula, Dhanishta, Shatabishak
Deva Nakshatras are calm, serene, kind, polite and
steadfast. They stand on an even keel. Human Nakshatras are industrious
and innovative. Demon Nakshatras are temperamental, unpredictable,
intense and eccentric.
If the couple’s moons are of the same race, then 6
points are given. If the Woman has a Deva moon and the Man has a human
moon, then 3 points are given. If the Woman has a Deva moon and the Man
has a demon moon, then 1 point is given. If the Woman is a human moon
and the Man is a Deva moon, then 5 points are given. If the Woman is a
human moon and the Man is a demon moon, then 3 points are given. If the
woman is a demon moon and the man is a deva or human moon, the no
points are given.
You will notice that the woman who has her moon in
a demon Nakshatra gets the short end of the stick. In a relationship,
this woman will only receive points for this kuta if she is in a
relationship with a man that also has a demon moon. The reason for this
is that a Rakshasa woman is highly temperamental and emotional. She
goes through many severe mood swings and tends to be very independent.
Relationship constraints and the natural give and take of a
relationship will make her feel suppressed. If the moon in a woman’s
chart is also highly inauspicious due to aspects by Krura Grahas and
Krura Grahas being placed within the 4th house from the Ascendant or
Moon, then it will make her that much more fearful and temperamental,
causing great distress within her psyche. If the woman with a demon
moon has beneficial aspects to her moon in the Rasi, then that will go
a long way to smooth over emotional turbulence and severe mood swings.
She will still be highly eccentric but will have a brighter outlook. A
man with a demon moon will be able to appreciate a woman with a demon
moon because his nature is the same and he will be able to understand
her.
Graha Maitram Kuta
Graha Maitram means ‘planetary friendship’. If the
lords of the moons are friendly, then it goes a long way in
understanding each other and having things in common. Mutual likes and
dislikes make the couple want to spend time together and have hobbies
and mutual interests. If the lords of the moons are inimical then
usually the couple ends up wanting to do different things at the same
time and as a result, end up spending less quality time together.
If the lords or the Moon signs of the couple are:
Mutual friends or the same: 5 points
One friendly and the other neutral: 4 points
Both neutral: 3 points
One an enemy and the other friendly: 1 point
One an enemy and the other neutral: .5 points
Both enemies: 0 points
If the Moon signs are in the 7th house from each
other, ex: Capricorn and Cancer, then this is considered highly
auspicious and no matter the relationship between the lords of the
moons, the couple receives the full 5 points for Graha Maitram.
The friendship/enemy/neutral relationships
referred to are the natural planetary relationships according to
Parasara.
Yoni Kuta
Yoni means ‘source’. Some people translate it as
the female sexual organ or vagina and it does mean that as well. The
vagina is the physical source of life. The maximum points for yoni kuta
is 4. Each Nakshatra has an animal symbol. The yoni of the Nakshatra is
the sexual organ of that animal. In times of extreme stress or in very
intense situations, such as sex, a person falls back on his instinctive
nature, which is his Nakshatra’s animal. If the yonis of the couple are
the same or friendly, then during times of stress and sex, their primal
natures are compatible and they are able to get through the experience
with a heightened awareness and appreciation for each other. If the
yonis are unfriendly or enemies, then the individuals will react to
stressful situations in vastly different ways and perhaps will not be
able to understand and appreciate the way the partner handles these
situations.
The animals representing the Nakshatras are as
follows:
Horse: Asvini (male), Shatabishak (female)
Elephant: Bharani (male), Revati (female)
Sheep: Pushya (male), Krittika (female)
Snake: Rohini (male), Mrigashira (female)
Dog: Mula (male), Ardra (female)
Cat: Punurvasu (Female), Aslesha (male)
Rat: Magha (male), Purva Phalguni (female)
Cow: Uttara Phalguni (male), Uttara Bhadra Pada
(female)
Buffalo: Svati (male), Hasta (female)
Tiger: Vishaka (male), Chitra (female)
Hare: Jyeshtha (male), Anuradha (female)
Monkey: Purva Ashada (male), Sravana (female)
Mongoose: Uttara Ashada (male)
Lion: Purva Bhadra Pada (male), Dhanishta (female)
Tara Kuta
Tara means star and it refers to the number of
Nakshatras the man’s moon is away from the woman’s moon. Starting with
the woman’s moon, count the number of Nakshatras to the man’s moon and
then divide by nine. To have Tara Kuta, the remainder should not be 3,
5 or 7. You do not count inclusively, like you do with houses. The Tara
of 3, 5 and 7 is obstructive for the woman to be receptive to what the
man offers her. Tara Kuta is worth 3 points and if absent, is not that
noticeable.
Vasya Kuta
Vasya means “dutiful”, “subjected to”. There are
four types of signs when it comes to Vasya Kuta. The Quadruped signs
are Aries, Taurus, 2nd half of Sagittarius, 1st half of Capricorn. The
Human signs are Gemini, Virgo, Libra, 1st half of Sagittarius, and
Aquarius. The “moving in water” signs are Cancer, 2nd half of
Capricorn, and Pisces. The ‘moving in wilderness’ sign is Leo. And the
insect sign is Scorpio.
All signs are Vasya, (dutiful, subjected to) the
sign of Leo except for Scorpio.
All signs except Leo are Vasya to the Human signs.
The “moving in water” signs are food for the human
signs.
The quadruped signs are food for the wild sign,
Leo.
The most points to be gained are 2. If the couples
moon’s are within the same category, then they earn 2 points.
If one of the couple’s moons is Vasya to the
other, then they earn 1 point.
If one of the couple’s moons in Vasya to the
other, but the other half of the couple’s moons in food for the other
one, the .5 points are gained.
If there is no Vasya between the couple’s moons,
then 0 points are gained.
Varna
Kuta
Varna means ‘caste’. Feminine energy is more
receptive and malleable than masculine energy, so it is better for a
woman to marry or be in a relationship with a man of a higher caste.
Brahmin Caste: Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces
Kshatriyas (warrior) Caste: Aries, Leo and
Sagittarius
Vaisyas: Capricorn, Taurus and Virgo
Sudras: Libra, Aquarius and Gemini
If the man is of a higher caste or if the couple’s
moons are of the same caste, then one point is earned.
Extra Special Qualities (Upaskaras)
Vasya
Unlike the Vasya mentioned in the Kutas, this
Vasya is based upon sign placement, not Nakshatra placement. As said
before, Vasya means “subjected to”. If one of the couple;s moons is
Vasya to the other, then they are magnetically attracted to that person
and there is an element of “I’ll do anything for you”. This can even
apply to other kinds of relationships, like platonic friendships, as
well. It is better if the man has Vasya to the woman, because feminine
energy tends to be more devoted and attached anyway, whereas masculine
energy is more independent. Having the woman’s moon Vasya to the man’s
moon is also very good and if the couple has great compatibility due to
points and lack of serious afflictions, then Vasya adds an extra
comfort and kindness to the relationship. If the relationship ends or
the compatibility is much less than ideal, then having Vasya can make a
situation of unrequited love or pining for the relationship long after
it is over. In some instances, both moons are Vasya to each other. The
following are the signs and the signs they are Vasya to:
Aries: Leo and Scorpio are Vasya or ‘subjected to’
Taurus: Cancer and Libra are Vasya or ‘subjected
to’
Gemini: Virgo is Vasya or ‘subjected to’
Cancer: Scorpio and Sagittarius are Vasya or
‘subjected to’
Leo: Libra is Vasya or ‘subjected to’
Virgo: Pisces and Gemini are Vasya or ‘subjected
to’
Libra: Capricorn and Virgo are Vasya or ‘subjected
to’
Scorpio: Cancer is Vasya or ‘subjected to’
Sagittarius: Pisces is Vasya or ‘subjected to’
Capricorn: Aries and Aquarius are Vasya or
‘subjected to’
Aquarius: Aries is Vasya or ‘subjected to’
Pisces: Capricorn is Vasya or ‘subjected to’
Mahendra
Mahendra means purposefulness. When the couple has
Mahendra, it is like a glue even if the compatibility is less than
average. If the compatibility is above average, Mahendra really adds
purpose and meaning to the relationship. Personally, I do not believe
is soul mates. But if there is anything that comes close to having a
soul mate connection, Mahendra would be it. The couple can wake up in
the morning and know that they are meant to be together and that they
have a special purpose for being together. In relationships that have
serious afflictions and low points, Mahendra will usually keep the
couple together even if they both desire to leave the relationship.
Mahendra is the only thing that makes up for low points (below 15).
Mahendra, by itself, does not make up for lack of Strii Dirgha or Vedha
or Rajju. In order for the couple to have Mahendra, the Nakshatra of
the man’s moon must be placed in the 4th, 7th, 10th, 13th, 16th, 19th,
22nd, or 25th from the woman’s Nakshatra.
Special Cases – Same Nakshatra
Three categories exist when coupling with the same
Nakshatra: good, medium and bad. When the couple has the same
Nakshatra, certain problems will always be present like Rajju, having
the same Nadi and no Strii Dirgha. In some instances, these blemishes
will not apply. These Nakshatras are in the good category and will not
experience the problems associated with the blemishes mentioned:
Rohini, Ardra, Magha, Hasta, Vishaka, Sravana, Uttarabhadrapada, or
Revati. Practicality and an absence of any co-dependence mark these
Nakshatras, therefore a couple with both their moons in these
Nakshatras will do very well and not experience any of the problems
associated with the major blemishes while benefiting from having full
Graha Maitram, same Gana, Bha Kuta, etc.
The Nakshatras that fall into the medium category
are: Asvini, Krittika, Mrigashira, Punurvasu, Pushyami, Purva Phalguni,
Uttara Phalguni, Chitra, Anuradha, Purva Ashada, or Uttara Ashada. All
of the blemishes that come with having the same Nakshatra could surface
from time to time when the couple has both their moons in any of these
Nakshatras. But if the individual chart shows maturity and a high
capacity for sharing with nice Venuses, plus a good masculine/feminine
dynamic, then these individuals will be able to weather the problems
that may pop up from having the same Nadi, no Strii Dirgha, and Rajju.
If the individual chart shows a poor capacity for relationship and the
Sun is under cruel aspect in the man’s chart and the Moon has heavily
inauspicious influence in the woman’s chart, then the more negative
aspects of having the same Nakshatra will manifest within the
relationship, and the couple probably will not make it over a long
period of time.
A relationship is not recommended if the same
Nakshatras are: Bharani, Aslesha, Svati, Jyeshtha, Moola, Dhanishta,
Shatabishak, or Purvabhadrapada. These Nakshatras are eccentric,
tumultuous, and complex. A relationship between two moons in these
Nakshatras would be way too problematical for the average person to
handle. The blemishes of Rajju, the same Nadi, no Strii Dirgha, etc.
would be highly pronounced within the energy exchange of the
relationship. This would lend to many difficulties that the
relationship would soon spend itself or there would be many break-ups
followed by getting back together only to break-up again.
Mars in the Consciousness AKA Kuja
Dosha
Yes, finally the famous Kuja Dosha or Manglik
affliction. Entirely too much is made of this affliction. By itself, it
does not make or break a relationship. And it certainly does not kill
the spouse, as is sometimes believed. It is very simple, it just means
Mars is in the consciousness in houses that relate to the partner. And
when Mars is in the consciousness in certain places, that means there
is aggression, pushiness and will power in these places. When these
places relate to the partner or family life, one partner is very vocal
about their needs and likes to exert their will while the other partner
may not be as assertive. Eventually, the partner that is not as
assertive will feel put upon or backed into a corner and they will
implode. This is what they mean when they say “the partner will die” in
certain cases of Kuja Dosha, it is not a literal statement. When
assessing Kuja Dosha, one must look at 3 charts: the Rasi, the Navamsa
(D-9) and the Trimsamsa (D-30). All three charts must be assessed for
the following:
Mars in the 2nd, 4th, 8th or 12th from the
Ascendant, from the Moon and from Venus. This must be done for all
three charts and in every instance that Mars has this placement, one
point is given. So look at the Rasi first. Count how many times Mars
falls in these positions from the Asc., Moon and Venus. Now look at the
Navamsa, do the same there and the same with the Trimsamsa. Add up the
total. If the couple has more than two points of difference, then one
person will be pushier in the relationship than the other and the
person with less Mars consciousness will feel like they are backed into
a corner from time to time. The more of the difference between the
totals, the more one person is assertive and the other is passive. It
is the duty of the astrologer to point this out to the couple because
it will make for problems down the road. If otherwise the compatibility
is good, then the difference in Kuja Dosha can be weathered. If the
compatibility is teetering on average, then the difference in Kuja
Dosha can push it over the edge. If the compatibility is already less
than average, then having a difference of more than two in Kuja Dosha
will almost certainly end the relationship.
There are exceptions to Kuja Dosha and this must
be taken into account when tallying up the totals for Mars affliction:
Mars in the 2nd in Virgo or Gemini
Mars in the 4th in Aries or Scorpio
Mars in the 7th in Cancer
Mars in the 8th in Pisces
Mars in the 12th in Taurus
Some say Mars in Leo or Aquarius but I have not
found this to work at all.
The following is an explanation of Mars in the
various houses of the partner and family and a general description of
Mars.
Mars is a planet of consciousness because Mars is
the will power. The Sun is the Soul and the Moon is the Mind, but Mars
takes what is in the mind and puts it into action. The Moon is the
perception and the manas but Mars is the general that takes our
perceptions and acts in the world. To assert ourselves in the world is
Mars. Mars is logic and he is celibate. He is not swayed by emotion.
Mars is swift and jumps into action to get the job done immediately.
Mars gets directional strength in the 10th house which is the opposite
of the 4th house, the house of the emotions and home life.
Mars in the 2nd house: The 2nd house is a house of
family and of our environment. Asserting our will and being logical
within the family will cause discord. Anytime logic is used in the
realm of the family or partner, there will be a fertile ground for hurt
feelings and resentment. The family is not a logical place, it is an
emotional place and should be a place of comfort.
Mars in the 4th house: The 4th house is similar to
the 2nd house as being a house of the home. But it is also a house of
happiness and emotional security. Mars gets no directional strength
here. This will make the person overbearing in their emotions and
appear needy. The family members and partner will sometimes feel the
brunt of their angry feelings.
Mars in the 7th house: The 7th house is the house
of the partner. A person with Mars in the 7th house will assert their
will with their partner. They will be logical with their partner.
Emotion will be lacking when it come to romantic relationships.
Mars in the 8th house: The 8th house is the house
of the marital bond and also the partner’s money. Mars in 8th person
will assert their will in how their partner handles their assets and
finances.
Mars in the 12th house: the 12th house as it
applies to relationship life is the sex life. Mars in 12th house person
will assert their will and be very logical when it comes to sex. There
can be an element of selfishness on the part of the Mars in 12th house
person and his/her partner may come to feel like they are not having
their sexual needs met.
Article Source: http://
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About the Author
Laura Barat is a professional ACVA certified Vedic
Astrologer living in the Rocky Mountains of Colorado. Her website is:
http://www.laurabarat.org/
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