Long Distance relationships are a true test to a
couple\'s commitment and personal limits. LDRs take a great amount of
effort to maintain and often people involved in them, realize that they
evolve into a state of emotion that they never found themselves in
before. When your partner is miles away from you, it is very easy to
let things go wrong and lead your long distance romance to an early
death. Some people find it difficult to bridge the distance through
communication, others become overly obsessed with what their partner is
doing when they are not there and as a result they spiral down a road
of jealousy and suspicion. They key is balance and following some basic
steps to keep your relationship healthy and strong.
Communicate and visit often
It cannot be stressed enough how important communication is for every
relationship, especially if it is an LDR. With the distance working to
keep you and your sweetie apart, your defense is keeping all lines of
communication open. It doesn\'t matter how you do it as long as you do
it. Every long distance couple should find ways to communicate that
make both partners comfortable and happy. You can talk on the phone
everyday, send e-mails, faxes or text messages and whatever you do make
sure you share your feelings and expectations and be true to one
another. Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible
or as often as your budget permits you to. A relationship cannot thrive
if the only thing you have is the phone calls. You need to see each
other up close and personal every chance you get. The key here is to
set up some \"rules\" about frequency of communication and visits and
stick to them, consistency can help a LDR survive. (Check our
Communicate Better and Travel section)
Avoid jealousy and be trusting
One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is
to poison it with jealousy and drama. When you start a long distance
relationship you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. It always
helps if you go in a relationship with the idea that everyone is
innocent and worth of trust until proven otherwise. Don\'t fall in the
trap to interrogate your partner every time he/she decides to go out
for a drink with people you haven\'t met or he/she didn\'t get back to
you right away when you called and left a message. Just because you are
in a LDR, you lives won\'t pause. Your partner will naturally have a
social life where he/she lives and so should you. Sure it helps to have
your eyes open and not be totally naive but being overly suspicious is
unhealthy for you and your relationship too. You should both maintain
your social activity and be happy with yourselves.
Be positive
Staying positive and not focusing on the negative aspects of a LDR is
essential to keeping your relationship blooming and your partner
content. Being away from your sweetie is not all bad news. Use the
opportunity of personal time to pursue your interests and hobbies as
well as your career objectives. Another positive points it that long
distance dating pushes both of you to be more creative, communicate
better since you don\'t have \"face-to-face\" time and test your
feelings. As long as you see the long distance relationship as a
temporary state, you will keep your chin up and transmit that feeling
of security and happiness to your partner too.
Long distance dating is all about a balanced relationship between
partners; a relationship built on strong foundations of trust,
understanding and determination to make it work. The two partners
should be reasonable about their expectations and willing to cooperate
so that this relationship can lead to a happy ending. If these
parameters are taken care of, you have nothing to worry about.
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