It's a given in the dating scene
that women naturally align themselves with guys who occupy a higher
place on the proverbial food chain. These guys are typically referred
to as the ALPHA MALES.
This type of man is looked up to by many, and all
the women in the immediate area are irresistibly drawn to him. What's
ironic is that your veritable "top dog" doesn't necessarily have the
looks of a celebrity, the body of a weightlifter, or the wealth of a
CEO.
In fact, lots of materially and politically potent
men don't have the slightest clue to generating genuine and lasting
attraction. Women might think they'll fall for a good -looking guy, but
keeping her around takes MORE than that.
As relationship expert Mirabelle Summers, author
of MEET YOUR SWEET, says, "To have
outrageous success with women, you'll need to speak their language. But
it takes the right material to educate you on such a cryptic matter.
After you've deciphered the inner workings of the female mind, you'll
totally light up her attraction circuitry right under her radar."
What attracts women to men? Let's go over some of
the things that will make you more than just an insignificant blip in a
woman's consciousness...
>> Talking the talk...
Your voice is a powerful tool you can use to make
women putty in your hands. Think about it - a well-modulated manner of
speaking is absolute dynamite to women.
While not of all of us are gifted with a deep set
of vocal cords, you can still pull this off. You just have to avoid
making some key mistakes that could undo your game.
It's a common tendency to speak in a wimpy,
high-pitched voice when we're nervous or flustered. As a result, you'll
sound girly, and lack confidence.
MAJOR TURN-OFF!
Don't let your voice betray your nervousness.
Practice with the way you talk so you don't give away that you're not
as collected as you seem.
Here's a suggestion: get accustomed to controlling
your voice through some daily exercises you can repeat several times.
Stop pulling your voice out of your throat; instead, make it register
deep down in your gut.
Pushing your voice out from the abdominal area
adds power. But don't try speaking in this manner right off the bat. Do
some humming or even singing exercises so that the sound you produce
comes from your diaphragm.
Get used to speaking properly all the time until
you're no longer "faking it". As such, having a pleasant voice will
become a natural part of your personality and sexuality. Ultimately,
you'll feel more confident in the fact that your deep, evenly paced and
masculine voice will greatly affect someone's reactions, specifically
with the ladies.
>> Walking The Walk...
Of course, your voice should also match the way
you move. Body language is a huge, make-or-break factor that will
INSTANTLY tell a woman what kind of guy you are.
Is an alpha male fidgety? Does nervous energy
manifest strong leadership qualities?
Definitely NOT. A high-value guy sets himself
apart by using his body to express his winning attitude.
He's relaxed and at ease, but never leans into
anyone's active space. In the same way, a PUA would automatically blow
his approach if he ever leaned into a woman's "territorial bubble"
because that signifies that he's out to impress her. That's not how an
alpha male rolls.
Think about how it looks from her perspective.
You're waiting for what she has to say, and your voice is too weak that
you have to lean towards her just to be heard. That's hardly the mark
of a high-value male.
If anything, you should stand with your feet at
shoulder length apart. Not too wide that you look overly cocky, but not
too close that you seem sorry for the space you're occupying.
As our mothers, teachers and countless figures of
authority have told us in the past, slouching is for losers. A weak,
rounded posture will cause "WIMP" to be written all over you.
Also, make large, sweeping movements that appear
natural, as opposed to quick gestures that make it look like you're
living in a stop-motion animation TV show (watch "Gumby" to see what I
mean).
This also applies to the way you walk, which
should be SMOOTH and evenly paced. Let your arms swing slightly, and
don't allow them to flail around.
Alpha Male Stylin' 101...
Hygiene and fashion form another important aspect
of maintaining your social value. Essentially, what women want is a guy
who's MATURE enough to groom and dress like a confident man.
Self-respecting women won't bother wasting any
time with a man who doesn't pay attention to DETAILS. For example, if
you had poorly managed teeth or reeked of body odor, do you think
she'll want to know what the rest of you is like?
Don't think that any guy is the exception to good
grooming and dressing sensibly. No man is going to land a real
relationship if he places himself above this simple dating
prerequisite.
Even if you're interesting, witty, and have a
great sense of humor, a woman can't appreciate all of that under a
nasty exterior of unkempt and unwashed hair, or if you dress like a
post-apocalyptic refugee.
The overall way you present yourself is what
matters here. Don't let a horrid sense of hygiene and style get in the
way of meeting the dolled-up, sweet smelling women that attract you.
It's only fair that you meet them halfway. It's
not like you'd be interested to go out with someone who was too lazy to
brush her teeth, shower or shave her legs, am I right?
So make it a habit to be always meticulously
CLEAN. If you ever want a beautiful woman to snuggle up against your
body, you're gonna have to make that EFFORT.
Here's a basic, top-to-toe list of
things to watch out for:
- Consult with a reputable stylist on which
hairstyle suits you in terms of age and body frame. He/she will be able
to figure out if you're better off growing out your hair, or if the
clean-cut look is more appropriate.
- A dentist can clean your teeth and advise you on
best dental practices to keep your smile looking bright. Also, don't
forget to brush after every meal, floss often and use mouthwash.
- Moisturize on a daily basis. I understand that
there are many guys out there that think moisturizing is the first step
on a slippery slope to femininity, but trust me, women like guys that
look after their skin. If you are around the same age as her, it pays
to look like her boyfriend rather than her father. A guy that looks
after his assets is one that is going to continue to look good as he
gets older, rather than looking worn down and weather-beaten.
- Bathe once or twice a day at the very least.
There's no excuse for smelling bad, so pay attention to the areas that
need adequate washing. Use a good deodorant, and if necessary, keep a
spray deodorant in your car or work bag for times when you need a
little freshen up. Like I said, a woman won't be enticed to get in
close proximity with someone who doesn't smell good.
- Get a friend to give you an unbiased opinion on
the kind of clothes that will suit your body type. Have him or her
check out the stuff in your closet to figure out which clothes you can
keep in active duty or retire permanently. If that's not an option,
drop by a decent clothing store and have the staff guide you on which
shirts, belts, pants and shoes will match you. A few basics that you
can mix and match will set your wardrobe up really well, and enable you
to mix new pieces with some of the older stuff you have saved. It may
set you back a few hundred bucks, but you'll thank yourself for doing
it later on.
- Lastly, get off your ass and get some exercise.
You don't have to look like Dr. Manhattan from "Watchmen", but you
should at least show the world you're making an effort to maintain your
body and keep fit. Knowing that you're taking care of yourself can
greatly boost your self-confidence, lift your spirits, and help keep
things in place. Not only will you look good, you will feel good! While
fitness clubs are ok, try signing up for places that are fairly
populated. Not only will you keep fit, you can also enhance your social
skills by interacting with the fellow patrons (which include women, of
course!).
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About the Author
Kathleen Falken has
participated in psychic research, dreamstudy, marriage counseling and
the practice of psychology for almost 40 years. See more of her
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